The three practices
1. Aknowledge you are hooked
2. Do something different
Choose a fresh alternative
3. Take a pause
And break out of the pattern
The habit that has build up
NO yes, but..
Make this practices a way of life
Being in a heated argument without knowing how you got to this angry place? Tracking back it always starts with an irritation that triggers a response with no end.
Tibetan Buddhist call this trigger Shenpa.
Translated as an attachment, a trigger, stickiness, being hooked. That is what gets us into trouble over and over and over again.
Aknowledge your Shenpa, seek new ways, break the chaining.